Amjad Al-Jumayyan: The Most Important Signs of High Emotional Intelligence; Accepting mistakes, taking responsibility, learning from mistakes, accepting criticism, listening and making eye contact with others while speaking.
Aman Emotional intelligence is evident in everyday life through the expression of emotional feelings and the extent to which we are able to restrain the extent of our emotions during their reflection between anger and joy until we reach a stage where we possess its balance, for lead us to control it and manage our emotions with adaptation and adaptation and how fast it is, according to what appears to us around us.There are problems in achieving a kind of receptive flexibility with those with whom we communicate.
Experts confirm the possibility of developing emotional intelligence, following online dialogue events or by directly representing, imitating and simulating people who are considered emotionally intelligent. For example, participating in large gatherings in which some adults discuss social issues, in which we can monitor how they communicate and how they present arguments and evidence wisely at the hearing and dismiss others during the comment and constructive intervention of what they have in mind away. by provoking conflict.
Development of emotional intelligence
It is necessary to develop hearing, sight and body language skills to complement the strength of the individual’s emotional intelligence, as well as to maintain self-confidence, balance, moderation and not deviate from the topic of the session, taking care to maintain the feelings of others in parallel with the consistency of mental alertness present as much as possible, and calculating the degree of ability to focus for the longest time possible without getting upset and frustrated.
Experts emphasize the possibility of teaching children through drama, acting and real participation in discussion groups, so that they learn the positive management of their emotional intelligence and the results they like, according to age. participate.
The Relationship between Emotional Intelligence and Scientific Intelligence
To further expand the concept of emotional intelligence and the possibility of teaching and teaching it to children, Al Jazeera Net interviewed psychiatry consultant and clinician Dr. Amjad Al-Jumayan, who said: “There has been a lot of talk lately about emotional intelligence, and its connection to scientific or academic intelligence, and there is a lot of talk about the role of emotional intelligence in success in professional and practical life. what is emotional intelligence?
Both add, “Emotional intelligence is defined as a person’s ability to understand and manage his or her emotions and feelings and to deal with the feelings of others. There is no test to measure emotional intelligence, such as the test. used to measure intelligence, so emotional intelligence is a description of personal abilities, through daily interaction with people and monitoring their behavior if we want to assess this. “
Both show that to achieve this we need the following basic elements; A person’s ability to appreciate and control his or her true feelings and emotions, and to have the ability to control negative feelings through experiences and methods gained to get rid of or alleviate those feelings such as anger and anxiety.
The most important thing is that we have the ability to understand and assimilate the feelings of others, and the efficiency of emotional intelligence is increased by positive feedback, and the person is inclined to develop this ability in order to succeed in his professional life. and social. , explaining, “Understanding personal feelings, understanding and assimilating the other, making concessions and gaining the ability to cope with negative emotions.” , they both say.
Signs of high emotional intelligence
They both cite the most important signs of high emotional intelligence, which are “recognizing mistakes, taking responsibility, learning from mistakes, accepting criticism, hearing well and making eye contact with others when speaking, which reflects self-confidence, respect for the feelings of others, humility and the preservation of principles and values, no matter what the circumstances or temptations. “
He believes that the acquisition of these skills has significant positive consequences on mental and physical health and social relationships, according to both counselors, and the most important thing is a sense of confidence and self-satisfaction.
Is emotional intelligence learned or genetic?
And they both say, “The common question these days is, how do children acquire this kind of intelligence? What is the difference between emotional intelligence and cunning methods of achieving a goal?”
- Emotional intelligence is acquired, not genetic and is not taught in schools.
- The child is a reflection of the behavior of the parents, in other words we are an example to our children.
- Emotional intelligence is a way of life, and unfortunately most of us have grown up in schools where only an intelligent child gets the highest grades
- We are not yet accustomed to the culture of understanding the other, accepting criticism and accepting mistakes.
- We are not yet accustomed to the culture of good listening and the importance of eye contact when speaking.
Unfortunately, this perspective often causes us to become overwhelmed when it comes to painting a picture about ourselves. is emotional. the resulting intelligence and social ability, and the reality of the issue Otherwise. According to the advisor.
Recommendations for teaching children emotional intelligence
The consultant tells both that the home is the first school for the acquisition of emotional intelligence and that “the child is the mirror of his parents’ behavior and they are the real mirror for us as educators, just as the child assumes that what the parents do is right or right. “
Below are the recommendations made by the consultant, Dr. Al-Jumaylan, how to teach children emotional intelligence, which are:
- Teach your children the culture of admitting mistakes and taking responsibility, not holding others accountable for our failures and blaming others for our mistakes.
- Teach your children the culture of self-criticism and acceptance of others.
- Teach your children the culture of liberation from addressing mistakes by making some concessions and tolerance.
- Teach your children the culture of freedom from the complex of position and money.
- Teach your children the flaws of the culture “a hundred eyes that shed tears, but my eyes do not shed tears”.
- Teach your children the culture of group work.
- Teach your child to be happy about the success of his siblings at home and his peers.
- Teach your child to be jealous and not envious.
- Teach your children that not everything that shines is gold.
Emotional intelligence is an acquired lifestyle
The counselor advises both, every mother and father, saying, “Do not lie and do not exaggerate your achievements in front of your children and do not use cunning ways to solve problems, because the child reads his parents and learns from them, but be realistic. and be a good example because reform starts from yourself and from home. “
Both conclude: “Emotional intelligence is a learned and immeasurable way of life, but it depends on specific measurement indicators, such as mental and physical health, and starts at home and is then reinforced by a holistic educational system and method and participants (home, school and media) ”.