Aman- Hossam’s modest personality has always been the cause of people misunderstanding him. His calm nature and frequent silence made people think that he has no power or knowledge.
Like any individual in the community, Hossam meets and meets new people in his life, however, he is sometimes seen as “trustworthy” and understands his silence as a weakness and lack of knowledge about the things around him.
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On the contrary, he is very intelligent and possesses many skills, but prefers calmness and balance in his words, according to him.
This look made him feel weak in character and low in self-esteem.
Also, the negligence of others towards him was increasing day by day, especially by a colleague, which made him go through a difficult psychological phase.
At first, Hossam was ignorant of how to deal with those who treated him that way.
Therefore, silence was his choice, as he is a tolerant person, but he felt that this silence was what pushed him to continue this behavior.
He says: “I can no longer stand this look and behavior.” Thus he expressed his dissatisfaction, which made him decide to confront them and clarify his point of view and inform them that he knows their actions and willingly ignores them. .
And now he demands that these actions be stopped, that the social relations between them not be broken, that everyone take care of himself and his work.
This confrontation gave Hossam a sense of strength and willpower, saying, “I should have done this a long time ago,” noting that “these behaviors are bad and must be eliminated so that their harm can be eliminated.” do not spread in society “.
Family and social consultant Dr. Mofeed Sarhan shows that one of the most important components of a successful personality is the ability to build relationships with others and maintain communication with them, as they are emotional, emotional and social.
Sarhan continues, that continuing relationships with others should be characterized by many good qualities, including patience, wisdom, and sacrifice.
As well as honesty, service to others, keeping their secrets, attending events, mutual respect and respect for feelings.
Sarhan explains that people differ in ability and temperament, which requires this to be taken into account in relationships.
Shows that some may tend to be calm and humble and not eager to show their skills in front of others, but rather to listen and listen rather than speak.
Which can boost his desire to perpetuate the relationship over patience, perseverance, avoiding the slips of others, and tolerance.
Sarhan says that there is a kind of person who can not properly appreciate the abilities of others and evaluate them correctly.
It is considered that silence and not discussing much is weakness and lack of knowledge.
Ignoring “wrong behavior”
This is called cheating on others and is a “flawed” behavior and shows a personality that does not respect the minds of others, even the people closest to him who gave him confidence and security.
He only uses their lure in unacceptable positions because they gave him complete confidence and considered him “credible,” according to Sarhan.
Sarhan defines the contempt of others as “the contempt of minds” and the exploitation of the goodwill of these people, as good faith and good intentions may be misunderstood by some.
This is what makes him behave “contemptuously” even with the closest people, including family members, relatives or co-workers.
Sarhan emphasizes that despising others is a violation of their most basic rights, neglect of their feelings, and a betrayal of their faith.
Which leaves a negative impact not only on the soul but also on social relationships, describing it as a “deadly weapon” that destroys relationships and deprives trust.
Sarhan emphasizes that non-fulfillment can be not only in words, but in attitudes, non-fulfillment of duties towards others, deception and deception are manifestations of omission.
Sarhan continues, that he may be from a simple person you see as more educated and cultured, just because he wants to feel strong and “false” skills.
He adds that even if the evasive behavior is from the most educated to the least educated, it is rejected because the principle is mutual respect between people.
On the other hand, silence about the behavior of “fools” can encourage them to continue on this path and make them feel “preferred” and become more “extended” and possibly harass others.
Sarhan notes that in such situations, showing the lack of acceptance and rejection, even notifying the one who ignores that his behavior is wrong, is important and one of the most important ways to deal with these people.
Sarhan emphasizes the importance of rejecting this behavior by everyone and not accepting the abuse of others even in their absence, because anyone who offends someone in their absence can offend you in your absence.
Smarting is not a solution
On the other hand, in the work environment, sometimes a number of colleagues can “integrate” one or more colleagues, either with words or comments.
Moreover, he does most of the work on their behalf, taking advantage of his values and desire to serve others and sacrifice to maintain good relationships.
Sarhan explains that this is a complex problem that is more serious than individual behavior, as meeting more than one person to neglect “one person” is a disease that needs to be warned.
In addition to working to not spread it, because its negative effects are for everyone and for work and the institution, commitment to values is a civilized behavior and condition for the success of individuals, groups and institutions.
Psychologist Dr. Ali Al-Ghaz believes that most of these behaviors are experienced on a professional level.
The reason for this is primarily due to the lack of sense of responsibility of a person, a person who may be apathetic in his life, who has no methodology or intentions, a disorganized, chaotic and casual person living his life in a disorganized way that lacks responsibility for every job it does.
Invasion shows that there can be no punishment, restraint or discussion with him and when dots are put in letters, he goes too far.
Some people benefit from the relationship and respect between themselves and the other party and from them emerge some abuses.
This is an “omission”, so it should be emphasized more professionally, as it is present in all areas of life with all age groups and within the family.
Invasion shows that the biggest obstacle falls on the one who observes this behavior, if he feels that there is a person who is being treated negligently, he should not completely ignore the situation, on the contrary.
It should be talked and discussed with him, so that things are clear to both parties, because his psychological dimensions are large.
The invasion explains that cheating and harassing a person creates some problems at the professional and family level, as psychological dimensions begin to appear on the person.
so he lives in a struggle between condemning this person or ignoring him, and this issue can cause psychological damage to the person himself and he will have a weak personality.
The invasion shows that the greatest influence is not on the one who practices evasion, but on the other hand, who may experience a psychological war that is unable to make a decision.
Also, he does not have the courage to talk to this person and may bring him embarrassment and put him in a position of weakness with others. This issue can confuse work.
As a result, it can cause problems on a professional level with others and create an unhealthy social or psychological environment.
The invasion suggests that the cure is to be strict, to value the human side.
But ultimately we are under the umbrella of laws, regulations and guidelines that must be applied in one way or another to all without exception, so that this person does not serve as a role model for others.
This is because there are those who can imitate this person and mix with him in this current and here the losses become great at the level of institutions, family or otherwise.
And the invasion notes that the impact of this behavior pervades everyone and can become something legitimate for some, because no one has stopped it, but rather it is repeated more than once.
And he showed that the treatment in this case becomes more difficult, and there may be losses in the psychological plan of the person and in the professional one, and the loss may include a wider and larger category.
While the negative effects may extend to others and not depend on one person, and that the treatment of a behavior is completely different from the treatment of a group.
On the other hand, the basic requirement to prevent this behavior is that the person has self-confidence and that no one is allowed to practice this behavior on him.
One must be socially intelligent and very attentive to everything, in order to work his “filter” for the behaviors that occur around him, according to the invasion.